Then it got me thinking about why it is we women dream of our wedding day as little girls. It also got me thinking about how we lose touch with the real meaning of it all because of the negative emotions that come with it such as stress, guilt, and fear.
Some of the negative feelings are natural since we are human beings, others are red flags. But for the purpose of today's post, I wanted to focus on what you should be feeling for one of the most important days of your life! We are all different in how we handle our feelings and express our feelings, but I feel that some if not most of these feelings should be how you feel. :-)
Giddy
Having that ring on your finger ought to bring out the inner girl in you who always dreamed of your wedding day. Feeling giddy is a natural little girl feeling of excitement and you might just feel like you and your fiance are back to the giddy days of when you first started dating. Well, assuming you aren't still in the giddy stage of your relationship. My hubs and I were together 5 years before engagement so the giddy feelings did a comeback for us!
Excited
You know that feeling that you don't want to go to sleep because you have so many ideas and thoughts and that feeling of being anxious to get up in the morning because there is so much you can't wait to get to for the day. Yep, planning a wedding should be that kind of exciting!
Happy
This one is obvious. You should be happy that you are engaged to the man you always dreamed of and that you get to take on the world together! The engagement period is to be a happy time!
Joyful
You are probably thinking that joy is just the same as happiness but I find it to be something different. It gets down to the source of happiness. You can have your ups and downs, you'll be happy and you'll be frustrated in the wedding planning process. However, if you feel deep down that joy of what it means to be getting married, well I'd say you can bring yourself to that peaceful place whenever you are feeling any negative feelings.
Creative
I never had a creative bone in my body and it wasn't until I was hunting down decor ideas for my wedding that my inner child who did crafts all the time came out. Your wedding should inspire you whether or not you plan to do a lot of DIY decor or none at all. You will still be imagining up what the day will look like and feel like. The workings of an artist right there! Your wedding is your canvas, let your creativity shine to make your wedding uniquely you!
Blissful
"I can't believe this is happening to me!" "Can this really be true?" "I'm living a dream or a fairytale!" If you find yourself saying these things often, allow yourself to indulge in that feeling. Feeling as if you are on cloud nine without a care in the world is a gift. A beautiful escape for your mind. It will also lead you to the next feeling. . .
Thankful
When you sit down and think about it, finding love and being loved in return is a beautiful thing that not many people get to feel. Embrace it and truly be thankful for all that is around you. Yes, you may not like that towel set that your aunt just insisted you needed even if it doesn't match the colors you want for your house. The gift came from her love and happiness for you. Be thankful that you have people in your life who care even if they frustrate you. Be thankful that you got your man to back you up!
Selfless
The engagement period is a great trial time for many couples. You end up doing a lot of practicing of "we" versus "me". You have to make decisions together and even compromise. As husband and wife we are to serve each other. If you aren't already feeling that selfless feeling towards your man, better get practicing! This is a time to put him first and to focus on his happiness along with yours. You never want to go into a marriage on a "me" mentality!
Optimistic
Things are going to come up in your planning that might freak your mother out. Or freak your fiance out. Or better yet, send you in a tail spin! But maintain an optimistic attitude and that feeling of it-will-all-work-out will help you deal with the stress. I remember when we had to change our wedding date, people where surprised that I wasn't freaking out. I just knew it all was for a reason and it most definitely was!
Blessed
The wedding isn't about you, isn't about the party or the cake or the favors. It is about God's Love. God gave His son for us just because he loves us! And then to give us the ability to love others as He loves us along with finding our spouse? Well blessings galore! How wonderful is our God? Really take moments in your wedding planning journey to think about the gift you have been given. Then give praise to the Lord!
If there are any here you aren't feeling, perhaps a sit down is in order with a loved one that can help you figure out what is keeping you from feeling that way. Then pray about it. If anything, you grow and learn and when it is all said and done, you are truly blessed! Love is the greatest gift!
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My name is Melina. Welcome to my blog where we get inspired by wedding pretties and moved by the Love of Christ. I write to share things that make me giddy and an outlet for us all to grow in our faith. Happy wedding planning and beyond! Check out my About page for more about me and the purpose for my blog :-)
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