Bride's Prayer: Feeling Left Out

Love in the air from your wedding. It is inevitable. You probably even know of someone else, at least on Facebook, who is also engaged. No doubt that your single friends are feeling googly-eyed about being in love, wanting to be engaged too. With all the wedding talk, your single friends may feel even more single and want to go out and mingle, and find their own Mr. Right!

So they go to that speed dating event your favorite restaurant is hosting without you. They go to that house party that falls on date night with your fiance. They talk to and flirt with guys at the neighborhood picnic you invited them to as you sit in the sidelines talking to your neighbor's grandma. Then when you get together and talk, they talk about those events that you didn't get to go to.

You feel left out. Maybe you feel jealous that you don't get to do those things with the girls. You still plan to have girls' night out, but the reality is that it won't be the same. Life won't be the same after marriage as you adjust to a priority shift from "me" to "we".

It is an adjustment that you and your friends will have to do together or apart.

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Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. - Ephesians 4:25
You need to have open communication with your friends. They are your friends after all and if they truly are your friend they will be more understanding of your feelings as you should be of theirs. Keep in mind that you going off and getting married is an adjustment period for all and your friendships will only be stronger having gone through it.

For jealousy makes a man furious, and he will not spare when he takes revenge. - Proverbs 6:34
It might be easy to snap when your friends get to gossiping about things when you weren't there. You might feel resentment and choose not to invite a friend to a cookout because she is "single" Why would she care to be at something that your couple friends are at? Guess again. She could be just as hurt as you had been when you didn't get to attend an event with your single friends.

The Prayer

I know that if I let jealousy consume my thoughts that anger will take over and blind me from what truly matters. I have found the love of my life, I have wonderful friends. It is those blessings and more that I need to focus on rather than on what doesn't matter. God, help me to appreciate the blessings my friends have brought to me over the years. 

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