The Solution: My number one tip is of course to hire a planner so that you can actually enjoy the process and your wedding day with out freaking out, however, I'm going to offer some tips since so many brides insist to do it themselves with no professional help.
All you have to do is P-L-A-N.
Prioritize- You need to know in your heart what is most important to you and maybe remind yourself what is most important. Your relationship may be priority, it is after all why you are getting married! Your job may be priority because maybe you need the money to pay for the wedding so taking days off isn't an option. Know your priorities. So if that vendor meeting is during your usual movie night with your fiance, skip it. Reschedule. If that gown fitting is scheduled on a work day and costs a bit of money to do it on the weekend, decide if the money lost on a day off is worth it. Reschedule. Make the wedding planning work around you. What needs to get done, will get done. Don't hinder yourself to make this wedding happen!
Let Go- Things won't go your way, things are going to go wrong, people are going to disappoint. Let it go, move on to the next plan. If you spend so much time freaking out, crying and complaining about what didn't happen, you waste the time you should use to come up with Plan B, or C or D.
Authorize- Okay superwoman guess what? You aren't superwoman. You can't do it alone. I know, I know, I am OCD too, but there are some tedious tasks that you can give to others to get done and you know what? They won't screw it up. Your bridesmaids, mothers, friends and family all want your wedding to go off without a hitch too because they love you! Give the authority to some to do some tasks for your wedding planning. Have your bridesmaids tie those bows, have your mom hunt down all the rental companies in the area, whatever task needs to be done that you can let go of, authorize someone else to do it.
No- Just say no if you have to. You don't owe everyone your time. You have to stick with your priorities and just decide what is worth your time and what is not. Someone wants to have a girlfriend's night before a bachelorette party just to have more time with you when you have none? Don't be afraid to say "No, I have so much going on, we can meet up during the bachelorette party."
What is most important is your priorities and that you haven't lost time that you truly needed for yourself or your relationship with your fiance which again, is the reason this whole wedding thing is going on.
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. - Proverbs 31:30
My name is Melina. Welcome to my blog where we get inspired by wedding pretties and moved by the Love of Christ. I write to share things that make me giddy and an outlet for us all to grow in our faith. Happy wedding planning and beyond! Check out my About page for more about me and the purpose for my blog :-)
4 comments:
This is REALLY good advice! And it's so true. If you need to find someone to help, it's not a bad thing. That's why they are there! It's there job to make your dream wedding come true. We have jobs and life, and sometimes it's just damn near impossible to find anytime to plan!
That is great advice! Acronyms are very helpful too. :)
Claire- It was so hard for me to learn to let some things go to other people but it was the best stress reliever because they do want to make our dreams come true!
Colleen- Thank you! Yes, I used to be a teacher and acronyms are still in my system for teaching things, lol!
This is wonderful advice Melina! It does get all messy between trying to figure out what do next- clean the house, do laundry, or some other DIY wedding project! Thanks for sharing your insight. =)
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